We as a nation are living in a time where likes and views are determining our self-worth. Men are feeling like they aren’t good enough for love because they don’t have a chiseled jawline, a six-pack, and aren’t six feet tall. Women feel like they are constantly competing with each other because society tells them they need to have big breasts, a big but, no stretch marks, a skinny waist, and a slim face. All of these things are being measured by the number of likes on a photo or the number of views on a video.
Our number one form of addiction is the instant feedback from social media. Men and women are posting pictures and videos with the hopes of thousands of people liking it within seconds. Each like, retweet, or repost of whatever they posted is an instant feed into that addiction, and with every day that goes by where fewer and fewer people like or view something, the withdrawals kick in.
Women are the number one demographic that compares themselves and their self-worth to the number of likes and views on a post. They use these statistics to undermine other women to feel superior, and when another woman who doesn’t meet the stereotypical view of beauty gets more attention than them, the withdrawal kicks in. They begin to feign for that attention again and start to attack other women.
We as a society can change this, however, and we can do so by making apps such as TikTok display people of all nationalities, demographics, and ages on each others pages. Apps like this use an algorithm to only display pretty girls or people with pretty houses and nice things. Making others feel like they are less for not having more. But that can change if everyone is given the opportunity to showcase what they bring to the table and be able to use their voice.