Addiction Awareness Scholarship Campaign 2020 – My Caring Father


My Caring Father


Jenny Tran

They say love is blind but sometimes you often forget it does not only apply to relationships but family as well. My dad is caring, generous, and kind to me. When I was in elementary school, there were times he would smile like crazy when he was drunk and say funny words that as a nine-year-old like me thought was utter nonsense.


It was my eighth-grade year I heard the news that my dad had gotten arrested and the reason being was his drunkard behavior where he acted aggressively towards his roommate. Hearing this news, I became dumbfounded thinking it was not a big deal. However, 2 years later as I entered high school, my dad became unemployed for years and his drunken behavior worsened. I eventually fell into a pit of empty promises, when he was drunk he’d promised he would stop drinking. My trust eventually broke when I’d see empty beer bottles fill up the trashcan.


During my high school years, I finally realized the type of man my dad had become. During the years of unemployment, sometimes he didn’t have enough money to buy packs of beer. He would come to me or my sister asking for money because that’s how addicted he was. Hell soon broke loose when he started to act toxic towards my mom during his drunken state. They would fight constantly and his aggressiveness started to break his relationship with my mom. It would end up in him calling her harsh names or throwing beer bottles due to anger maybe smashing his phone. It also affected the way I saw my dad, consuming something in an excessive amount can damage you.


I’ve come to finally acknowledge, it was hard to love my dad when he was drunk. I only loved him when he was sober because I knew that his addiction made him spend recklessly, lash out at others, and damage his relationship with my siblings and my mom. Not only that but he would become aggressively violent to others on the street.


As I got closer to my senior year, I also discovered the path I wanted to take down the road. I wanted to become a child psychologist because being in a toxic household and having to be around my dad who was an alcoholic and drug addict, took a toll on me. I knew that I didn’t want kids to go through the same experience I did.


The reason why this addiction crisis still exists is due to the fact some addicts like my dad refuse to get help. Some of the addiction like alcohol or drugs becomes a gateway because some addicts see it as a means to escape from problems concerning love, money, family, etc. Not to mention, “people” do not only include Americans but as well as foreigners. Some foreigners only understand things in their own language, so when it comes to rehab programs, they usually have the workers speaking in English so it may be difficult for some addicts to receive help when it does not meet their needs entirely in that aspect.


To fix this crisis in our society and the individual, programs should be created to meet the person’s needs. Previously mentioned the language barrier, there should be programs that expand to many languages. In addition, some people are not aware that there are free rehab programs or programs for low-incomes. If we can educate and spread awareness that such programs exist, it can decrease the number of addicts and help recover those who struggle. Some addicts feel alone and when they want to seek help, they might become clueless as to go about it so that solution can resolve their problem.