Dating an Alcoholic

In April 30, 2018

American Couple

Being around  a person with an addiction can be painful and trying especially when you love them and care about their well-being. No matter what stage you are in a relationship, if the person you are dating is an alcoholic it is going to affect you in many different ways. It can be frustrating, confusing and even frightening at times to witness someone’s descent into substance abuse.

If you are dating an alcoholic you need to be careful to make sure you are getting the support you need so that their addiction does not take too much of an emotional toll on you. It is also important to make sure that you are not unconsciously taking on the role of an enabler. In certain relationships one person may end up taking care of the alcoholic, covering up their abuse and lying for them which can perpetuate their addiction.

When you truly care about someone you will want what’s best for them and that may mean confronting them about their problem through an intervention. If you have the opportunity to talk about the issue with their friends and family you can take part in a planned intervention that can help convince them to go into treatment. Getting them the help they need to recover may help you save your relationship if you are having problems related to their addiction.

If at any point in the relationship you feel that your partner becomes aggressive or abusive when they drink or they seem resistant to ever changing their habits then it may be time to walk away. If someone’s addiction is causing too much harm to you and they are not open to recovery then you should end the relationship. There are many support groups for people involved with alcoholics that can help provide you with guidance so that you can make the right decision.

By Dr. Reuben Vaisman-Tzachor

Primary Therapist