Making the decision to go to rehab is the best choice that you can make if you are struggling with an addiction. However, it can be hard to leave your normal life behind for a few months and leave for rehab especially if you have young children. Telling your children about your rehab stay can be complicated for them to understand and you need to put it terms that will let them know that everything will be okay.
Communicating with Kids: How to Explain Rehab
Young children might know on some level that something is going on but they may not be able to comprehend the whole situation. Older children may have an idea of what is going on or they may know exactly what it is, depending on their experience of your addiction. The important thing to remember is that no matter what age, children need to be told the truth and they need a chance to discuss and work through their feelings.
Explaining things in simple terms that a young child can understand will be a good way to introduce the idea to them. You can simply tell them that you are sick and need to go away to get help for your problem. You don’t need to use the word addiction as it may be too complicated a concept for them to understand.
Older children may understand the term addiction and so you can be honest with them about your situation. They may even have noticed your addictive behavior and are glad you are getting help. As long as your children know that you are going to get better then it can make the prospect of your going away seem less scary.
How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Recovery Journey Based on Their Age
- Toddlers & Preschoolers (Ages 2-5):
At this age, your little ones need clear and simple explanations. You might say something like:
“Mommy/Daddy isn’t feeling well right now and needs to go to a special place to get better. You’ll be safe with [trusted caregiver], and I’ll be in touch with you often. I love you very much and will be home soon.”
- Elementary School Kids (Ages 6-12):
Kids in this age group might have more questions and could feel worried about your absence. It’s important to reassure them:
“I’ve been dealing with an illness, and I’m going to a treatment center to get better. It’s not your fault, and nothing you did caused this. I love you and will call you regularly to check in.”
- Teenagers (Ages 13-18):
Teens are more likely to understand complex issues and may already suspect something is wrong. Honesty is important, but it’s also key to maintain appropriate boundaries:
“I’ve been struggling with a disease that affects my health and emotions. I’m getting professional help to become a better, healthier parent. I know this might be tough, but I want you to know that I love you and am doing this for our family’s future.”
Remember, open communication and reassurance can help your children feel safe and supported during this time.
When you leave for rehab, it is important to have an intimate talk with all the people closest to you and especially your children.