Anger Issues and Blaming Others
People that struggle with mental health problems may have issues with anger even if they are dealing with a disorder like depression, bipolar disorder or a personality disorder. Anger can be difficult emotion to cope with and can lead to lashing out or blaming others for their problems. There are healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with anger, frustration and the build up of painful emotions.
Those who are coping with a lot of negative feelings may want to blame other people in their lives for how they feel. They might do so as a defense mechanism to avoid facing their feelings of guilt, shame, sadness and powerlessness. The problem with blaming others is that it doesn’t resolve feelings of anger and can actually be very disempowering.
Blaming people enhances a sense of being a victim and can lead to even more feelings of depression and helplessness. A habit of blaming can also be a way of distracting yourself from taking responsibility which can be an uncomfortable feeling. Reducing the tendency to blame others can help people learn to confront how they really feel.
An important aspect of working toward better mental health is the task of self-reflection. Blaming people can prevent you from reflecting on your own actions, feelings and desires and how to satisfy them. Taking time to reflect on yourself can help you to see how blaming people does not resolve any of your issues.
Anger often derives from depression and for those that are blaming others it may be because they find it hard to confront their own depression and deal with it constructively. Seeing a professional therapist can help the individual find healthy ways to cope with and manage their depression in a way that improves their relationships with others and reduces the tendency to blame.